Leaders don’t have to be born. You can develop your leadership and become a leader using these guidelines.

When a previous article on “change your life, find friends“, I developed the idea that you need to emphasize your persuasion skills to interact better with people, and by doing this, you can be more social. Now, in this article, the focus is not so much making friends, but how to become the leader on that team or a group. The ideas I’m going to share, are based on the book “how to Win friends and influence people”, by Dale Carnegie.

Idea 4 to Become Leader: Leadership: Giving Criticism & Driving Improvement

- Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
To become a leader, you need to motivate people. Praising is a way to open the communication channel with others. It is easier to take criticism after some praise. For example, look for things done well before calling attention to failings. A leader is present not only in bad times, but rewards the good job.

- Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
One great way to talk to people, is to give own examples of your experiences, rather than criticize.Telling a story, instead of giving the recipe, is fantastic to let people grow by themselves, for example, you can tell the story of how and event change your life. Also, the burden of criticism is easier to bear when shared. So, share your experience, even bad ones, with people to make a connection.